77 Setting Boundaries Quotes To Help You Stay Strong

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Boundaries can be hard to maintain when you are a people-pleaser, or when you really care about other people and how they feel. However, it is important to remember that you need to come first if you want to be your best self.

When you lack boundaries, it becomes easy for other people to take advantage of you, and even hurt you.

Below we are sharing our favorite quotes all about boundaries to help empower you to stick to your boundaries.

Also, feel free to check out of free download on How To Discover Your Own Boundaries Worksheets at the end of the post.

Quotes about boundaries

1 ) “If you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won’t like you. It may not be easy, but it’s essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs” – Cheryl Richardson

2) “Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.” – Asa Don Brown

3) “Boundaries need to be communicated first verbally and then with actions.” – Henry Cloud

4) “Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect” – unknown

5) “Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.” – David W. Earle

6) “Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will get.” – Unknown

7) You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people.” – Unknown

8) “You get what you tolerate.” – Henry Cloud

9) “No one will listen to us until we listen to ourselves.” – Marianne Williamson

10) “Boundaries are easier to manage when your values are well-defined.” – Joe Jordan

11) “Stop asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” – Unknown

12) “Walls keep everybody out. Boundaries teach them where the door is.” – Mark Groves

13) “It is necessary, and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it.” – Mandy Hale

14) “Personal boundaries, if you feel comfortable saying something about yourself and you say it, and someone doesn’t like it, that’s their problem. Don’t let who you are be up for debate.” – Jenna Ryan

15) “You have the right to say ‘No’ without feeling guilty.” –  Manuel J. Smith

16) “You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” – unknown

17) “Sometimes, you have to let people know it’s not a grudge you’re holding onto; they’re boundaries you’re holding onto.” — Unknown

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Setting boundary quotes

1 ) “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” – Brene Brown

2) Accept that setting boundaries with other people is not going to make you popular. Once you set a boundary, stand by it. Remain strong in the truth that by setting boundaries against mistreatment, you are aligning with the higher, positive, and loving way of living” – unknown

3 ) “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” – Anna Taylor

4) “Setting boundaries is your responsibility. People will continue to do what you allow. You get to decide what is and what isn’t allowed in your life.” – Unknown

5) “Individuals set boundaries to feel safe, respected, and heard.” – Pamela Cummins

6) “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.” – Brene Brow

7) “When you set personal boundaries you feel stronger as you act on your boundaries.” – Unknown

8) “Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.” – Rachel Wolchin

9) “Boundary setting helps you prioritize your needs over other people’s wants.” – Lauren Kenson

10) “I set boundaries not to offend you but to respect myself.” – Unknown

11) “The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none.” – unknown

12) “Every time I have to set a boundary, it stresses me out. But I do it for the same I’ve been building blanket forts since I was a little kid. To create a safe place for myself.” — Nanea Hoffman

13) “Boundary-setting is really a huge part of time management.” — Jim Loehr

14) “When setting boundaries with people feels really wrong, it’s probably really right for you. Stay committed anyway. Later, it will feel different.” — Jody Lamb

15) “Setting boundaries in a relationship implies your attempt to continue the relationship in a healthy way. It’s not an attempt to hurt the other person.” — Shilp

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Disrespect overstepping boundaries quotes

1 ) “Stop asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” – unknown

2) “No” is a complete sentence.” – Annie Lamott

3) “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.” – Brene Brown

4) When you notice someone does something toxic the first time, don’t want for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Many survivors are used to the “wait and see” tactic” which one leaves them vulnerable to a second attack. As your boundaries get stronger the wait time gets shorter. You never have to justify your intuition.” -Shahida Arabi

5) “Be honest with who you are, what you want and how you want to be treated. Boundaries only scare off the people that were not meant to be in your life.” – Shannon L. Alder

6) “If you’re offended by my boundaries, then you’re probably one of the reasons I need them.” – Steve Maraboli

7) “The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none.” – Unknown

8) “People who violate your boundaries are thieves. They steal time that doesn’t belong to them.” – Elizabeth Grace Saunders

9) “A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.” – Unknown

10) “When someone oversteps your boundaries, they’re letting you know that what you want doesn’t matter.” – Phil Good

11) “People who violate or cross your boundaries by being cruel, insensitive, thoughtless, abusive, rude or disrespectful should not be a part of your life. You deserve love, dignity and respect. People who willingly and knowingly cross boundaries have mental issues that need to be dealt with.” – Unknown

12) “Value yourself enough to walk away from people, situations, and places that make it their duty to disempower you. If they can’t respect who you are, they don’t deserve to be in your presence.” — Ash Alves

13) “Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.” — Melody Beattie

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Relationship boundary quotes

1 ) “Every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the world–that is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimate secrets of your marriage.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

2) Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose.” – Deborah Day

3) “Poisonous relationships cloud your vision. I wasted a lot of time adjusting my personal boundaries and justifying disrespect when it would have been so much easier (and a lot less painful) to simply adjust my life to their absence.” – Steve Maraboli

4) “Boundaries were necessary for a successful relationship. Most relationships aborted in the boundary defining stage. Not because people demanded what they needed. But because they didn’t, then got resentful about it.” – Karen Marie Moning

5) “Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose.” – Deborah Day

6) “If you have to ask to be treated right, you are around the wrong people. On the other hand, if you allow this behavior to enter into the relationship from the start, it can and will continue, and will be very difficult to change up later. Set your boundaries sooner than later.” – Christine E. Szymanski

7) “If people love me, then they will understand and celebrate my need for boundaries.” — Lucy Bekker

Boundaries quotes about family

1 ) “Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and o there begin.” – David W. Earle

2) “The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle

Celebrity boundaries quotes

1 ) “I’m never clear with my boundaries. I hope I do influence other women to set better boundaries for themselves.” – Amy Schumer

2 ) “Power for me is “no”. That’s when you know your worth, when you know your value. And that’s power for me.” – Taraji P. Henson

3) “There are reasons to set boundaries for yourself, but there are also reasons to keep doors open” – Ashley Graham

4) “In order to thrive and be successful, you have to be able to set boundaries.” – Oprah Winfrey

5) ““The hardest part about setting boundaries with people, no matter who they are, is not feeling confident in our authority to do so. As long as you realize that setting boundaries is necessary for healthy relationships, you will feel better defining and keeping them.” – Tamera Mowry-Housley

6) “It feels great to be connected to people, but having boundaries is so important.” – Selena Gomez

7) “I swear to God, the second I learned how to say ‘no,’ I felt that was the best anti-aging I could do for myself.” – Gabrielle Union

8) “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say “no” to almost everything.” – Warren Buffet

9) “No is a complete sentence.” — Shonda Rhimes

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Quotes about healthy boundaries

1 ) “Healthy boundaries are not walls. They are gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your own garden.” – Lydia Hall

2) “Healthy boundaries are important, but you may be building a brick wall when a picket fence would do.” – Amy Dickinson

3) “You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours.” – Bryant McGill

4) “A healthy boundary is one where each person understands that they have their own thoughts and feelings and can maintain a curiosity about the other person’s thoughts and feelings without making assumptions.” – Carlene MacMillan

5) “Being able to say “No” is a necessary ingredient in a healthy lifestyle.” – David W. Earle

6) “Each time you set a healthy boundary, you say ‘yes’ to more freedom.” – Nancy Levin

7) “Having healthy boundaries not only requires being able to say “no”, but also being willing and able to enforce that “no” when necessary.” – Jessica Moore

8) “Do not justify, apologize for, or rationalize the healthy boundary you are setting. Do not argue. Just set the boundary calmly, firmly, clearly, and respectfully.” — Crystal Andrus

Boundary quotes about self-care

1 ) “Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” – Doreen Virtue

2) “Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring just because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too.” – Christine Morgan

3) “To me, self-care does not mean going to the spa. It’s learning to say no.” – Tracee Ellis Ross

4) “Emotional self-defense… When you set healthier relationship standards in your life, some people will take it personally. That’s their issue, not yours. The distance isn’t against them; it’s for you. It’s a boundary, not a grudge.” – Steve Maraboli

5) “Stop allowing people to disrespect your right to say no and enforce boundaries as a form of self-care.” – Tasha McCray

6) “Create boundaries. Honor your limits. Say no. Take a break. Let go. Stay grounded. Nurture your body. Love your vulnerability. And if all else fails, breathe deeply.” – Aletheia Luna

Closing thoughts…

Although setting boundaries, and enforcing those boundaries, can be difficult it is important for our emotional self-care.

By saying no, we are letting other people know how they should treat us, and we will be demanding the respect that we deserve.

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