How To Fall In Love With Taking Care of Yourself (8 Steps)

A woman in a red dress is sitting against a tree. She is writing in a journal and working on her self-care.

The topic of self-care can feel incredibly overwhelming.

Over the pandemic, the internet seemed to explode with new content about it as people began to realize how critical it is to achieving happiness. There are so many new social media accounts, graphics, and posts devoted to it, including this one. Once a relatively unknown and uncovered subject, there is now no shortage of information out there.

The problem can be sorting through all of it to discover which information is correct, and which resources should you listen to/ It can seem impossible to know where to start. 

But it doesn’t have to be.

Self-care is simply the physical act of loving yourself. It really does mean taking the best care of yourself. So by falling in love with taking care of yourself, you are essentially falling in love with self-care. 

Below is 8 things you can do to fall in love with self-care.

How do you fall in love with taking care of yourself?

1) Do your research 

In order to learn how to take better care of yourself, you need to learn what exactly what your needs may be, and what sort of self-care tasks can improve your quality of life. There are many things to learn like types of self-care, self-care based on your stress level, self-care for certain lifestyles, self-care for certain mental illnesses or disorders (like ADHD) and so much more. By educating yourself as much as you can about the topic, you can make the best decision for yourself. 

2) Get to know yourself 

The Self-care process is a very personalized one. Everyone is different so there isn’t really a one fits all approach. You can’t decide what is the best fit for yourself if you don’t really know yourself. Learning as much as you can about yourself, such as your likes and dislikes, your needs, and what type of person you are, will enable you to make the decision on what kinds of self-care tasks would make the biggest impact in your life. 

3) Compile a list 

Once you feel that you know yourself better, you can compile a list of all the different self-care activities you would be interested in trying out, the ones you want to avoid, and the ones you feel you could make a part of your normal everyday routine.  

4) Start small 

If you are new to self-care, you don’t want to overwhelm yourself by trying to power through an ultimate list of self-care activities and trying them all at the same time. By starting small and maybe adding a few things to your daily routine that you have tried before and are comfortable with, it prevents you from trying to do everything all at once and getting overwhelmed.  

5) Check in with yourself 

Once you have added those few new things into your routine, check in with yourself after each self-care activity.  

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to check in: 

How did that new activity make me feel?  

Did it reduce my stress?  

Do I feel more relaxed?  

Did it add any value to my life?  

Can you see it becoming a part of my normal self-care routine? 

Which area of self-care did I feel like it impacted? 

Compiling the answers to the above questions should give you an overall idea of how you feel about each self-care activity, and which ones might not be for you.

6) Expand your routine based on what is missing 

After you have checked in with yourself, it can be a good idea to look at all the areas and see where you might be missing something. This will let you know where you need to focus on.

Do your social needs feel taken care of? If not, maybe you need to look at joining a club, or an activity.

What about your mental health needs? If you feel like you might be struggling it can be a good idea to go see a professional who can offer you some extra help. 

7) Give it time 

Some people look at self-care as a band-aid that is just supposed to instantly stop the bleeding and fix whatever it is that need fixing. So when they try a new self-care activity and it doesn’t immediately fix all of their problems they think it doesn’t work. However, I like to think of self-care more as medicine. It might take some time and following the routine of taking your “pills” regularly before you begin to notice a change.  

8) Practice  

The more you practice self-care and self-love, the better you will become at it, and the easier it is for self-care activities to become a part of your normal routine.  

Once you feel comfortable and confident in performing self-care activities, it becomes very easy to love it—and in turn, love yourself. 

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