How To Tell If Someone With ADHD Likes You (4 New Examples)

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If you haven’t had experience with someone who has been diagnosed with ADHD before, it can be difficult to know what to expect.

While ADHD has been gaining popularity over the last few years, there is still so much that people don’t know about it. I myself have been diagnosed with ADHD, and I am still learning new things about it every single day.

For the most part, you can tell if someone with ADHD likes you in the same way that you can tell if anyone else likes you. Although those of us with ADHD have a disorder, we are still people with complexities, nuances, similarities, and differences, just like everyone else.

Not every neurotypical person expresses interest in the same way, just like not everyone with ADHD will express their interest in the same way.

Not to mention that those of us with ADHD don’t all experience the same symptoms of the disorder and those that do have the same symptoms don’t experience them in the same way or even to the same degree.

Some of us are on medication. Some of us are not. Some of us can mask some or all of our symptoms. Some of us couldn’t hide our symptoms if we tried.

There are so many things that are different about us.

However, there are several more common symptoms of ADHD that could possibly affect how someone expresses their interest in you.

Below I am going to share several ADHD symptoms that could affect how you can tell if someone with ADHD likes you. Then I also want to review some common ADHD symptoms that don’t mean that someone with ADHD doesn’t like you. Plus I’ve included ways you can support someone with ADHD if you like them.

4 Ways You Can Tell If Someone With ADHD Likes You

1. They remember things about you

People that have ADHD often struggle to focus their attention. It doesn’t matter if they have the hyperactive type of ADHD, the inattentive type of ADHD, or a combo of both.

What they pay attention to can become a struggle.

If they remember lots of little details about you, or things you have said to them in the past, it could be a sign that they are interested in you.

2. They ask you many questions

Many people with ADHD are curious and inquisitive. When they are interested in something or someone, they can ask many questions in an effort to learn and understand something or someone better.

This can seem annoying or confusing to people that aren’t used to it, however, they are just trying to get to you know.

3. They seem flustered around you

A common struggle for people with ADHD can be emotional regulation. Feelings can be difficult to process, so when they feel a lot of different and exciting feelings all at once it can be difficult to hide it.

This could manifest as anxiety or awkwardness and even excitement.

4. They overshare

Because my brain constantly moves so fast and I am thinking about several different things at once, it isn’t uncommon for me to say something before I fully think about what I am saying.

Or often times I say something wrong, or it comes out differently than I wanted it to, and I don’t even notice until someone points it out to me.

If someone with ADHD is oversharing, it could be because they like you and your presence is making their thoughts race even more than normal which is in turn causing them to overshare.

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6 Signs That Don’t Mean That Someone With ADHD Doesn’t Like You

Just like there could be signs that someone with ADHD likes you, there are some things that people with ADHD can commonly struggle with that people might interpret as a sign that a neurotypical person doesn’t like them.

However, with ADHD these could just be symptoms of their ADHD manifesting and shouldn’t always be interpreted as signs that they are disinterested:

1. They don’t reply to you

When people struggle with ADHD they can often become distracted, either by their own thoughts, or the world around them or both.

People with ADHD also usually overthink, so if they are actually interested in you, they could be feeling a lot of anxiety and excitement when it comes to communicating with you and could experience ADHD overwhelm and simply stop replying.

Try not to take it personally.

2. It seems like they aren’t listening to you

Chances are if you feel like they are checked out and not listening to you during a conversation, they probably aren’t. But please don’t take it personally.

I often tell my husband that I would love it if he could spend even five minutes in my brain. There is so much going on, and it isn’t that I don’t want to listen to him when he speaks to me, it is just that it is often a struggle and sometimes I am successful in fighting it and sometimes I am not.

It doesn’t mean I am not interested in what he has to say.

3. They won’t plan a date

People that struggle with ADHD often have trouble making plans, executing them, and initiating tasks. This is called executive dysfunction and it is fairly common.

Some of the reasons for this could be perfectionism, anxiety, overwhelm, or even fear of failure.

The fear that they could plan something and you will say no could be enough to stop them from asking at all.

4. They aren’t giving you attention

Unfortunately, receiving attention from someone with ADHD isn’t always consistent.

It can be a struggle to modulate your attention when you have ADHD. So sometimes a person with ADHD will be great at giving you attention for a period of time and suddenly it will feel like they have ghosted you.

This doesn’t necessarily mean they are no longer interested in you. It often means that they are struggling with their focus and where it needs to be at that moment.

5. They forgot something important

Another common symptom of ADHD is forgetfulness. When someone with ADHD forgets something important, it isn’t a sign that they don’t care about you, or the thing they forgot.

There is just so much going on in the mind of someone with ADHD that certain things fall through the cracks.

6. They aren’t great at replying to your messages

Usually, when someone responds to your texts or messages quickly, it is a sign of interest.

It is easy to understand then why someone with ADHD not replying, or taking hours or even days to reply to your messages could be seen as disinterest.

However, replying in a timely matter, or getting distracted and forgetting to reply at all is someone that people with ADHD struggle with.

My husband knows that if I don’t reply to him in a timely fashion, he should often message me again and sometimes he has to follow it up with a phone call.

How Can You Support Someone You Like Who Has ADHD?

Some of the ways that you can support someone you like that has ADHD are:

  • Try to be understanding
  • Be patient with them
  • Listen to them
  • Communicate your feelings clearly
  • Don’t try to parent them
  • Forgive them
  • Don’t try to fit them into a box

Final Thoughts…

Having ADHD is difficult. Many of us are still trying to learn as much as we can about our own diagnosis. So when other people make an effort try to understand someone who has ADHD it is a wonderful thing.

However, it is important to remember that everyone is different, and while common telltale signs that someone likes you can be true for someone with ADHD, they can also not be true for someone with ADHD.

Take care of yourself.

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