My Life Sucks: 11 Simple Questions To Ask Yourself

My Life Sucks

There have been multiple times in my life where I have felt like my life sucks.  

Sometimes things just don’t go right, and before I learned to love and value myself, I struggled with this a lot. I had done all the things in life that I thought I was supposed to do. I pursued a secondary education so I could get a wonderful job in health and wellness. I found an amazing man and got married. We bought a beautiful home.  

But I woke up one day and realized I was still deeply unhappy. Despite what I had accomplished, I still felt like my life sucked.  

And I felt guilty about it, which didn’t help.  

I knew there were people out there that didn’t even have the necessities to survive and here I was surrounded by wonderful things and still feeling unhappy.  

The problem with those types of thoughts stemming from guilt is that it didn’t change the fact that I still felt my life sucked. 

Luckily there were 11 questions that I used to help transform my life from one that sucks into one that I am in love with. And I am going to share them below.

My Life Sucks – 11 Questions To Ask Yourself That Will Help

1. Does My Life Actually Suck?

f you feel like your life sucks, the first thing you should do is ask yourself if you truly feel like your life is bad, or if you are just having a bad day.  

When bad things keep happening to you it can be easy as a human to jump to extremes. One bad thing happens and the entire day sucks. A few bad things happen and your entire life sucks.  

But all of those things could actually be situational and simply based on what is happening in your life at that moment. 

So how can you tell the difference?  

When those things that are bothering you improve, do you feel better? If your day goes more smoothly does that fix the problem? 

If you answered yes, then chances are your feelings are situational and your life doesn’t actually suck. 

But if things are going great and you still feel your life sucks—that is a sign that you need to look deeper and might need to make some lasting changes.

2. Why Does My Life Suck?

Self-reflection will be the hardest step when it comes to trying to improve your life, but it is the most necessary. This is where most people stop, and why many people know they are unhappy, but don’t seem to take any steps to improve their lives. 

Reflecting on your life requires brutal honesty. It requires getting uncomfortable and encountering painful thoughts and emotions. Humans are designed to try to avoid pain, so it makes sense that many people would rather be unhappy than feel the pain that is necessary to fix their lives. 

However, as someone who has had to do this before, I promise that it is worth it.  

You will need to spend some time examining your own life and deciding why you think it sucks. Is it your environment? A dead-end job? A toxic relationship? All of the above?  

Whatever it is, you need to decide what it is that you are unhappy with in your life before you can discover the steps you need to take in order to fix it.  

There are a number of ways that you can do this: 

  • Meditation – Meditation doesn’t have to be sitting on the floor cross-legged and humming. It can simply be taking some quiet time to yourself to calm your mind and really think. With so much going on around us, it can be difficult to cut out the noise and distractions and focus on what is really important. 
  • Journaling – While it might sound silly to some, putting your thoughts down on paper can provide you with a lot of clarity. Sometimes your thoughts can feel all twisted and confusing, but writing them down can enable you to sort through them and decide what is important and what isn’t.  
  • Speaking with someone you trust- It can be helpful to bounce your thoughts off someone who knows you well, or someone that can relate to you. They can help you to put your struggles into perspective. But it is important to pick the right person. Sometimes the people closest to us can be the most unsupportive or unhelpful. Telling you to “suck it up” or “just be grateful” isn’t going to help and may make things worse.  

That is why I would suggest:

  • Therapy– A therapist can be a safe place for you to express your emotions and thoughts, and unlike some friends and family they shouldn’t minimize or dismiss your feelings. They can also help you prioritize the parts of your life that you feel need to change. 

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3. Can I Take Any Ownership In Why My Life Sucks?

I am not saying that the fact that your life sucks is your fault. In fact, there are many factors that can contribute negatively to your life that you have no control over. Things like illness, the family you were born into, generational trauma, and losses of loved ones are just some examples of that.  

However, there are often many things in your life that are the direct result of choices you have made. Things like education, friendships, career, the area you live in, and what you do with your spare time all have a direct effect on your happiness.

Accepting your own ownership in your situation isn’t meant to make you feel worse. It is meant to do the opposite and empower you. Everyone makes the wrong decisions sometimes. People, feelings, and circumstances change over time. What might have been the right choice for you at one time, might not be right for you anymore.  

But that means that you have the power to make new choices right now and change your life for the better. 

4. What Steps Can I Take To Improve My Life?

Once you discover what things in your life are causing you to feel like your life sucks, you should be able to come up with some ideas of things you could do to improve your life.  

For example, if you have discovered that one of the biggest issues in your life is that you are trapped in a job that no longer makes you happy, the solution could be to apply for new jobs, or even to go back to school to continue your education or get a new certification.  

Everyone has different circumstances, so only you will know what steps you need to take to make things better. 

5. Does My Current Life Align With The Person I Want To Be?

Your life won’t make you happy if it is not aligned with the person that you want to be. Your beliefs and values will influence every decision you make and how you interpret the world around you. When those things aren’t aligned, it can cause you to feel unhappy or unfulfilled.  

In order to get rid of that inner conflict you need to create new habits, goals, and a new life that reflects who you see yourself as. 

6. Am I Taking Proper Care Of Myself?

One of the most common causes of unhappiness is a simple one– neglecting yourself and your needs. Not having enough energy, exercise, healthy food, and quality rest can keep you from functioning on the level you should be and can be confused as unhappiness.  

It can also contribute to you making the wrong choices, or doing things that you regret out of survival. 

Hustle culture has become such a toxic thing, causing people to be proud of the fact that they are working themselves to the bone and causing extreme burnout.  

Some things you can do to take better care of yourself are: 

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7. What Is Important To Me?

Getting crystal clear about what is important to you in your life will help you discover the path you need to take to create a life you are happy with.  

When you know what your priorities are in life, it will be easier to focus on improving the things that truly matter and blocking out the things that don’t.  

8. Am I Getting In The Way Of My Own Happiness?

If you have low self-worth and self-esteem, you may have convinced yourself that you don’t deserve to be happy. This can even lead to you sabotaging any glimmers of happiness that do come along.  

If this is the case, it will be important to improve your self-worth before you try to fix everything else. If you don’t, chances are you will continue with your old patterns and find it extremely difficult to create new happier ones. 

9. What Things Do I Currently Enjoy About My Life?

Thinking about the things that you already enjoy in your life, and that are important to you, may help give you some perspective when it comes to how much your life sucks.  

Being grateful for the things that don’t suck in your life won’t be a permanent solution if there are real problems you need to fix, but gratitude is a powerful tool that can help strengthen your mindset and create some resilience to the negative things in your life. 

10. How Am I Going To Track My Progress?

Attempting to fix a life that sucks can be overwhelming, so it is important that you have a way to track your progress. During large projects, sometimes it can be difficult to see any progress that is being made which can lead to you feeling discouraged and quitting.  

Keeping track of the progress will make it easier to celebrate the small wins, and help you to realize what is working and what is not. 

11. What Effect Am I Having On The Life Of Other People?

Although it is extremely important to make yourselves your first priority in life and to put your own happiness first, that doesn’t mean you should stop doing good things for other people. 

In fact, studies have shown that when we help other people we increase our positive thinking and our feel-good hormones like oxytocin. 

So even though you might be struggling, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make someone else happy.  

Seeing the people we care about in a good mood is often contagious and will put us in a good mood too.

Final Thoughts On My Life Sucks

Although things might feel hopeless right now, that doesn’t mean they have to remain that way. By taking the correct steps to help improve your life, you will be able to do so. 

Reading this post shows you have the capacity to improve your life.  You don’t have to ask yourself every question right now, but work on one question at a time and break it up into smaller chunks if you find it too overwhelming.  

You can do this. 

Take care of yourself.

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