3 Reasons Why The Only One Who Cares About You Is You

A woman sits alone on a train looking out the window. The only one who cares about you is you.

It’s time for some brutal honesty, my friends.  

When it boils down to it at the end of the day, the only one who cares about you is you.  

Now, before you get defensive, I can already guess what you might be about to say:  

“But my family cares about me” 

“I have the best friends ever. They love me.” 

“Not true! My dog is my best friend!” (No? Just me? Okay…) 

By saying the only one who truly cares about you is you, I am not saying that you don’t have some great friends and some wonderful family that loves you a lot.  

What I am saying is that over time we learn that nothing is forever, and things are always in a constant state of change. 

We come into this world alone, and we will leave it the same way. 

Have you ever lost a friendship? Had someone stab you in the back? Had a family member let you down?  

If everything was stripped away from you, you would only be left with one thing—yourself.  

We are going to look at that concept, why that is, and why it might not be such a bad thing. 

Am I the only one who cares about me?

You are the only person who truly cares about your growth 

Sure, other people care about you and what happens to you. They probably want the best for you and want you to succeed in life. They probably even root for your happiness. However, you are the only one that is going to drive your own growth and ensure that success manifests. 

Everyone has their own life to worry about 

Although we might feel like we are the center of someone else’s world, the truth is, when it comes down to it, people will always only have themself to count on.  

That doesn’t mean someone else wouldn’t literally throw themselves in front of a bus for you.  

It just means that everyone also has their own set of goals, problems, and insecurities. They need to focus on and deal with those things in order to succeed and to care about you. They can never be fully focused on you. 

They can only see life through their set of eyes, so their thoughts, feelings, and experiences will always come first before your own. 

Most people are inherently selfish 

People are just inherently selfish beings. It is a survival instinct. Sure, one of the first things we learn is how important it is to share and make friends, however some people never really lose that selfish edge.  

There are a lot of people who want to get ahead in life, and unfortunately not everyone is a nice person. Some people are willing to step on people to get what they want. 

Depending on someone else for everything could be a disaster, especially if you are putting your trust in the wrong person. 

Why you being the only one who truly cares about you might be a good thing 

You are the one in control 

When you are the one that cares about yourself the most, you are the one that is in control of your own life. Your success and happiness fully rests on your shoulders. 

This realization should help motivate you to chase your dreams and your own happiness. It should give you ownership back over your own life. 

You can’t control who cares about you and how much they care about you.  

So, focus on what you can control—yourself. 

Other people will disappoint you 

This isn’t meant to by a cynical statement. It is simply the truth. No one in this life is perfect, and humans make mistakes. So even if someone doesn’t mean to, they could eventually disappoint you and let you down.  

When we care about someone, we tend to go to extremes to make sure they are as happy as possible. But when that effort isn’t reciprocated, it can leave us feeling hurt, and even burned out. 

People will fall short of your expectations, so if you do things for yourself and meet your own expectations instead of depending on others for that, you won’t be let down. 

You will stop depending on others for your happiness 

The less people you truly depend on, the less control you have over your own happiness. Everyone has the gift of free will, and we can often be disappointed when other people choose themselves first. However, we aren’t responsible for the choices of others. 

Reciprocity is nice, but it isn’t mandatory.  

You will only disappoint yourself 

Looking at things from the other direction, if you are taking care of yourself, and you are depending on yourself for your own happiness, then it is safe to assume that the other people in your life are depending on themselves for their own happiness as well. This means that if you make a mistake, the only one you will disappoint is yourself. 

It takes off a lot of the pressure 

When everyone is responsible for their own happiness, this means you don’t have to worry about other people depending on you for their own happiness either.

It can make you raise your standards 

Do you really want to waste your time on someone who might not be treating you the way you deserve to be treated anyways? When we love ourselves more and take more responsibility for our own happiness, it makes it easier to see when we might have been wasting our energy on someone who isn’t good for us.  

We need to learn to surround ourselves with the right people. 

What to do when the only one who cares about you is you 

1) Take better care of yourself 

How many times have you put someone else’s needs above your own? Where did that put you? 

I feel like so many problems that people experience in their lives could be improved by simply taking better care of themselves. I understand that is more easily said than done. However, when you are the sole person responsible for your happiness, you need to take the best care of yourself possible.  

Eating properly, taking care of your mental health, and surrounding yourself with positivity and things that you love will improve your life. 

2) Learn to love yourself 

Loving yourself is also so important for your own happiness. When we take care of ourselves and begin to love ourselves, we don’t feel the need to have approval from everyone else. 

3) Change your mindset 

The way we think creates our world. Changing our perspective from “oh no, no one truly cares about me” to “I care about myself the most and need to make this happen” can turn problems into opportunities, and failures into great moments to learn something. 

4) Be brave 

When you aren’t as worried about disappointing others, or being disappointed by them, it makes it easier for you to stop worrying about what others think and make choices that will make yourself happy. 

Also, many of us are afraid of making real connections with people, but when you know that the person to care about you most is you, it takes some of that pressure and fear away. 

Realizing that the only one who cares about you is you, isn’t a bad thing. It just means that you need to get your priorities straight. 

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