19 Tips For Expressing Feelings In A Healthy Way

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Even though feelings make life more exciting, many of us have trouble expressing our feelings at all, or in healthy ways.

It can be so easy to get caught up in our own feelings when we don’t know how to express them adequately, and this can lead to so many other problems in our lives that we might not even realize at the time.

In this post, I’m going to share 19 tips for expressing feelings.

How to get better at expressing your feelings

1) Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is all about paying attention to what is happening in that specific moment. That will help to put us more in touch with our current emotions. We could practice mindfulness by doing yoga, breathing exercises, or just having moments of calm in our day.

2) Take your time

As frustrating as it can be when you want to express everything you are feeling all at once, learning how to understand our emotions can take some time. We won’t be able to do everything all at once. And that is okay.

3) Get good at accepting change

Most people suppress their feelings because we don’t want to accept changes that are happening around us that we have no control over.

For example, many of us have experienced parents separating when we were children, but a lot of us probably pushed those feelings aside or tried to “be strong” because we knew a lot was going on for our parents and other family members.

This could leave us with unresolved feelings, and teach us an unhealthy way to deal with our emotions. If we had been able to accept that change happens, and even expressed our feelings to our parents, they could have assured us that although they no longer want to be together, they will still both love us, and a separation might even help them to become better parents and happier people.

4) Stop looking for validation for your emotions

When we constantly want other people to validate or approve of the emotions we are feeling, it can stifle our ability to express emotions in a healthy way. Not everyone is going to agree with us all the time, and that is perfectly okay.

5) Be a good listener

Communicating our emotions isn’t just about expressing ourselves, it’s about starting a conversation and waiting for a response as well.

It would be wise not to assume that you already know how they are going to respond. Asking questions to ensure that you understand them can help confirm to them that you care about what they say as well.

6) Be more vulnerable with the people you love

Sometimes it can be challenging to share the deepest parts of ourselves with other people. When we do that, we are trusting that other person with parts of ourselves, and we are making it easier for them to hurt us with the information we tell them.

However, in order to really love someone, we need to be able to trust them, and that includes trusting them with our feelings.

7) Use a journal

Journaling can help to get us in touch with our emotions. Spending time each day writing about our thoughts and feelings helps us to get in touch with them and to get to know ourselves on a much deeper level.

Journaling can also help us identify our triggers, or the causes of our emotions and work through problems in a way we might not have considered.

8) Stop overthinking

When we overthink, it can cause us to overreact and blow things out of proportion. By learning how to reign in our overthinking, or to stop it altogether, we can prevent getting stuck in a mentally insecure place when it comes to expressing ourselves.

9) Practice empathy

By working on being more understanding and accepting of other people’s feelings, it can help us do the same for our own feelings.

When we take the time to understand how other people feel, we can come to realize that our feelings are not a bad thing.

10) Take the pressure off of yourself

We are all human. We are never going to be perfect.

When it comes to expressing our emotions, we aren’t going to say the right thing all of the time. And that is completely okay and normal.

Putting too much pressure on ourselves to always say the right thing in the right way can paralyze us from sharing anything at all.

11) Practice gratitude

It can be difficult to be unhappy when we are focusing on what is good in our lives and what we are thankful for.

12) Go in with no expectations

If we are too worried about what we think we should be feeling, or if those feelings are normal it can get in the way of us discovering what is really happening with our emotions.

13) Accept constructive criticism

People that are unable to accept constructive criticism are often unable to express their feelings in a healthy manor. When you feel like you are always right and everyone needs to see things from your point of view.

Being able to accept constructive criticism means you are okay with other people expressing their opinion and feelings to you, even if it can be tough to hear.

14) Practice makes perfect

Expressing our emotions can seem scary when we aren’t used to doing it. By escaping our comfort zone and taking little steps at a time, we can make this more comfortable for ourselves. Eventually, with practice expressing our emotions will no longer be uncomfortable.

15) Use body language to help

Using your body language can help you to express your emotions to others more clearly. Most people are able to pick up on body language well, even if they don’t realize it, so adding body language to go with your words can help.

16) Use a new hobby to help

If you are not used to expressing yourself, something creative can help you to learn to be more expressive. Painting, journaling, and storytelling are all examples of creative activities that can help you learn to express any feelings you may be hiding.

17) Express happiness too

When many people think about expressing their emotions, they often think about expressing anger, disappointment or frustration. We don’t always think about expressing our happiness, but this is an emotion that should be expressed as well.

18) Be patient and forgiving with others

While we may not be used to expressing our emotions, the people around us will not be used to us expressing our emotions either.

Although we need their patience as we learn how to express our feelings in a healthy way, we also need to extend that patience to the people around us that we are trying to express those emotions to.

19) Practice positive self-talk

The way we speak to ourselves in our mind has a massive impact on how we see ourselves. If our self-talk is negative and overly critical of the things we do, it could be telling us that our own feelings aren’t important.

Having a positive inner voice can help to give us more confidence and empower us to express our feelings on a regular basis.

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